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Post by southside on Jan 14, 2015 13:57:43 GMT -5
In all honesty, ragu fulfilled his promise. He made me mod. He didn't say how long I had to be mod. thebigragu feel free to put me back as a regular poster whenever you feel like it. When I said I was willing to trade mod status for black stars under my name I was serious. |
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Post by southside on Jan 14, 2015 13:59:50 GMT -5
I really thought I'd stop after 90 days. The last 10 days I've been around people and in certain situations where I really wanted to drink and I was like, "Fuck this I'm going 90 days and then that's it." Then I was hanging with some friends that were drunk and spent 8 hours drinking nothing but beer and liquor. It was then that I said, "Nah. I don't want to start that again." Sometimes I get tempted around drinkers, but in a way it's been exactly what I needed to remind myself why I'm not drinking right now. I really wonder how many of my friends would stop drinking if I showed them a video of themselves. It made me really question how I portrayed myself because I thought I was just acting normal, and maybe I was, but I'm sure my friends think they're just their normal selves when they are drinking too and clearly they aren't. You don't realize the power something has over you until you watch someone who won't drink anything other than an alcoholic beverage. And that's what I did for a long time too. I think I viewed drinking water more as a recovery tool than something I'd ever go out to a restaurant and be fine with drinking. It's kind of sad to see other people doing that to themselves and it's a sobering reminder (pun somewhat intended) for me as to how easy it would be for me to slip back into that lifestyle. Not to mention the bullshit drama I found myself in this weekend involving the bar people I cut out of my life. At least I knew even when I was drinking every night that I didn't like those people. They have the nerve to try and make my sobriety about them and asking me why I don't hang with them anymore. It's real simple, we weren't really friends. We drank together so I tolerated you people. Then you got so damn annoying and dramatic that I had to stop drinking with you. I drank to enjoy myself and they made it a pain in the ass. So why, now that I'm not drinking, put myself through the hell of suffering in the drunken company of people I only associated with because I didn't want to drink alone? Long winded response to basically say you guys can go fuck yourselves. I'm on this train until I feel like I no longer have to worry about slipping into a pattern of life that I grew to detest. “...one of the primary differences between alcoholics and nonalcoholics is that nonalcoholics change their behavior to meet their goals and alcoholics change their goals to meet their behaviors.” .... real talk .... which one of those groups are you suggesting I fall into because the goals/behaviors thing confuses me. |
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Post by thebigragu on Jan 14, 2015 14:03:23 GMT -5
“...one of the primary differences between alcoholics and nonalcoholics is that nonalcoholics change their behavior to meet their goals and alcoholics change their goals to meet their behaviors.” .... real talk .... which one of those groups are you suggesting I fall into because the goals/behaviors thing confuses me. Avoid early recovery groups. They are just a bunch of people going because they have to. court odered or family issues. You want meetings with people over a year. Maybe once twice a week, its where you'll find your friends and probably a chick or 2 |
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Post by frostlich on Jan 14, 2015 14:06:32 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2015 15:42:04 GMT -5
I really thought I'd stop after 90 days. The last 10 days I've been around people and in certain situations where I really wanted to drink and I was like, "Fuck this I'm going 90 days and then that's it." sound familiar? behold, the force of wisdom that is shakin |
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Post by jetstream23 on Jan 14, 2015 15:56:11 GMT -5
I really thought I'd stop after 90 days. The last 10 days I've been around people and in certain situations where I really wanted to drink and I was like, "Fuck this I'm going 90 days and then that's it." Then I was hanging with some friends that were drunk and spent 8 hours drinking nothing but beer and liquor. It was then that I said, "Nah. I don't want to start that again." Sometimes I get tempted around drinkers, but in a way it's been exactly what I needed to remind myself why I'm not drinking right now. I really wonder how many of my friends would stop drinking if I showed them a video of themselves. It made me really question how I portrayed myself because I thought I was just acting normal, and maybe I was, but I'm sure my friends think they're just their normal selves when they are drinking too and clearly they aren't. You don't realize the power something has over you until you watch someone who won't drink anything other than an alcoholic beverage. And that's what I did for a long time too. I think I viewed drinking water more as a recovery tool than something I'd ever go out to a restaurant and be fine with drinking. It's kind of sad to see other people doing that to themselves and it's a sobering reminder (pun somewhat intended) for me as to how easy it would be for me to slip back into that lifestyle. Not to mention the bullshit drama I found myself in this weekend involving the bar people I cut out of my life. At least I knew even when I was drinking every night that I didn't like those people. They have the nerve to try and make my sobriety about them and asking me why I don't hang with them anymore. It's real simple, we weren't really friends. We drank together so I tolerated you people. Then you got so damn annoying and dramatic that I had to stop drinking with you. I drank to enjoy myself and they made it a pain in the ass. So why, now that I'm not drinking, put myself through the hell of suffering in the drunken company of people I only associated with because I didn't want to drink alone? Long winded response to basically say you guys can go fuck yourselves. I'm on this train until I feel like I no longer have to worry about slipping into a pattern of life that I grew to detest. “...one of the primary differences between alcoholics and nonalcoholics is that nonalcoholics change their behavior to meet their goals and alcoholics change their goals to meet their behaviors.” The same could be said of Jets fans. For a while there was satisfaction and applause for not having a losing season, as if 8-8 or 9-7 was some kind of badge of honor. That's horse hockey, the goal always has been and always will be a Super Bowl. |
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Post by jetstream23 on Jan 14, 2015 15:57:33 GMT -5
In all honesty, ragu fulfilled his promise. He made me mod. He didn't say how long I had to be mod. thebigragu feel free to put me back as a regular poster whenever you feel like it. When I said I was willing to trade mod status for black stars under my name I was serious.Be careful. Once you go black you never go back. |
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Post by Bing© in Buffalo Chairman on Jan 14, 2015 15:59:03 GMT -5
not being familiar with your situation, I watched my Dad die of alcoholism. He was very successful in his career but was a functioning alcoholic..
it cost him his marriage at age 73, then he died at 78. Alcoholic dementia is not pretty.
instead of drinking, why not light up the herb pipe?
fewer side effects and rarely does someone get that fucked up and forget what they did the night before, get into bar fights etc...
ive never been a drinker..... but I do have that wonderful addictive personality trait..
coffee, smokes and buds..... breakfast of ex champions...
I wish you that best in your fight....
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Post by Jets Things on Jan 14, 2015 16:03:29 GMT -5
I really thought I'd stop after 90 days. The last 10 days I've been around people and in certain situations where I really wanted to drink and I was like, "Fuck this I'm going 90 days and then that's it." Then I was hanging with some friends that were drunk and spent 8 hours drinking nothing but beer and liquor. It was then that I said, "Nah. I don't want to start that again." Sometimes I get tempted around drinkers, but in a way it's been exactly what I needed to remind myself why I'm not drinking right now. I really wonder how many of my friends would stop drinking if I showed them a video of themselves. It made me really question how I portrayed myself because I thought I was just acting normal, and maybe I was, but I'm sure my friends think they're just their normal selves when they are drinking too and clearly they aren't. You don't realize the power something has over you until you watch someone who won't drink anything other than an alcoholic beverage. And that's what I did for a long time too. I think I viewed drinking water more as a recovery tool than something I'd ever go out to a restaurant and be fine with drinking. It's kind of sad to see other people doing that to themselves and it's a sobering reminder (pun somewhat intended) for me as to how easy it would be for me to slip back into that lifestyle. Not to mention the bullshit drama I found myself in this weekend involving the bar people I cut out of my life. At least I knew even when I was drinking every night that I didn't like those people. They have the nerve to try and make my sobriety about them and asking me why I don't hang with them anymore. It's real simple, we weren't really friends. We drank together so I tolerated you people. Then you got so damn annoying and dramatic that I had to stop drinking with you. I drank to enjoy myself and they made it a pain in the ass. So why, now that I'm not drinking, put myself through the hell of suffering in the drunken company of people I only associated with because I didn't want to drink alone? Long winded response to basically say you guys can go fuck yourselves. I'm on this train until I feel like I no longer have to worry about slipping into a pattern of life that I grew to detest. congrats dude. Self-righteous cunt. |
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Jan 14, 2015 16:07:01 GMT -5
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Post by PK on Jan 14, 2015 16:07:01 GMT -5
not being familiar with your situation, I watched my Dad die of alcoholism. He was very successful in his career but was a functioning alcoholic.. it cost him his marriage at age 73, then he died at 78. Alcoholic dementia is not pretty. instead of drinking, why not light up the herb pipe? fewer side effects and rarely does someone get that fucked up and forget what they did the night before, get into bar fights etc... ive never been a drinker..... but I do have that wonderful addictive personality trait.. coffee, smokes and buds..... breakfast of ex champions... I wish you that best in your fight.... Substituting one thing for the other may work for some...But not for most. |
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Post by Jets Things on Jan 14, 2015 16:12:29 GMT -5
not being familiar with your situation, I watched my Dad die of alcoholism. He was very successful in his career but was a functioning alcoholic.. it cost him his marriage at age 73, then he died at 78. Alcoholic dementia is not pretty. instead of drinking, why not light up the herb pipe? fewer side effects and rarely does someone get that fucked up and forget what they did the night before, get into bar fights etc... ive never been a drinker..... but I do have that wonderful addictive personality trait.. coffee, smokes and buds..... breakfast of ex champions... I wish you that best in your fight.... Substituting one thing for the other may work for some...But not for most. Sooooo glad I gave up booze for Smack. Never looked back once. |
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Post by PK on Jan 14, 2015 16:16:53 GMT -5
Substituting one thing for the other may work for some...But not for most. Sooooo glad I gave up booze for Smack. Never looked back once. I don't drink when I'm tripping. And it only costs 5 bucks for 12 - 18 hrs of fun. It's the most economic way to parrr-ty |
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Post by Ff2 on Jan 14, 2015 16:30:22 GMT -5
the group think never helped me....yapping just made me frustrated.
Its all about habits and who you hang with. You need to enlist people who support you.
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