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Post by Harrier on Mar 26, 2018 14:46:58 GMT -5
Health and fam are the key. Everything else can fuck off.
Didn’t Ragu have a wobble not long ago?
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Post by shakin on Mar 26, 2018 14:49:47 GMT -5
listen, marriage is like the portapotties in the parking lot at the end of a jets game:
those on the outside are dying to get in
those on the inside are dying to get out
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Post by JetRepulsion1 on Mar 26, 2018 14:50:27 GMT -5
MarriedRepulision? Now change my name back please. ) now! What’s stopping you changing it back yourself? Nothing. Except that I didn't realize I could change it back, which I now just did thanks to you and your unhappy marriage. See, something good did come out of your misery.
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Post by JetRepulsion1 on Mar 26, 2018 14:51:45 GMT -5
listen, marriage is like the portapotties in the parking lot at the end of a jets game: those on the outside are dying to get in those on the inside are dying to get out Or, as Homer Simpson once said: "Kids, marriage is like a coffin. And each kid is like a nail in that coffin."
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Post by bxjetfan on Mar 26, 2018 14:54:09 GMT -5
Health and fam are the key. Everything else can fuck off. Didn’t Ragu have a wobble not long ago? Is wobble like a black kid?
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Post by Big L on Mar 26, 2018 14:58:36 GMT -5
Oh snap
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Post by BushytheLobster on Mar 26, 2018 15:01:11 GMT -5
Hit the nail on the head green, maybe it’s my tolerance for the things a marriage throws at you that’s diminished. I have everything I want like yourself, a good career I enjoy, great pension, 2 great homes, 2 fantastic kids, no money worries etc. We’ve been together since we were kids and are like best friends but it’s that very friendship that presents a problem at times, she annoys the living piss out of me like best friends do. I’m under no illusions life would be any better with anyone else and I’d be making my life incredibly difficult by just walking away and starting again. Think I’ve just got a low ebb at the minute. Im turning 45, and just passed 10 years of marriage. Im no expert, but it sounds like you're in a rut or a low ebb. We all get there from time to time. As long as you believe the bolded, to me, thats the main sign to stick it out. Wives are annoying at times. But then so are most human beings. lol Ruts in relationships are a myth. There's no relationship equivalent of a batting slump--some temporary dysfunction that comes out of nowhere and just as suddenly one day resolves itself. Marriage problems--serious ones--are more like erosion of skills due to age or injury....they can come on gradually or they can come on fast. But once they start they only head one way.
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Post by Hotman on Mar 26, 2018 15:02:09 GMT -5
so what are the laws over there?...will you lose everything like here if u call is quits?... Yeah you pretty much get cleaned out like everywhere else. My career has always kept me busy but now I’m spending much more time at home. Early midlife crisis. Maybe it’s time for a new hobby like golf instead of drinking. Time for that mazda miata and hair plugs. lol
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Post by Hotman on Mar 26, 2018 15:03:25 GMT -5
I’m not just talking about my personal situation. I’m talking about married life in general. Grass is never greener.depends who you ask!
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Post by Hotman on Mar 26, 2018 15:06:23 GMT -5
the emotional, irrational mood sh*t which I am barely able to tolerate...and each time it happens, I get a little less invested..I've even told her this. I simply cannot tolerate it bro I feel you so hard.... no hewmow but i know better then to get married but fuck all that shit
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Post by 32Green on Mar 26, 2018 15:07:41 GMT -5
Im turning 45, and just passed 10 years of marriage. Im no expert, but it sounds like you're in a rut or a low ebb. We all get there from time to time. As long as you believe the bolded, to me, thats the main sign to stick it out. Wives are annoying at times. But then so are most human beings. lol Ruts in relationships are a myth. There's no relationship equivalent of a batting slump--some temporary dysfunction that comes out of nowhere and just as suddenly one day resolves itself. Marriage problems--serious ones--are more like erosion of skills due to age or injury....they can come on gradually or they can come on fast. But once they start they only head one way.
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Post by PK on Mar 26, 2018 15:11:36 GMT -5
my wife recently caved and started going drink for drink with me after dinner. it's fun. i give her 6 months to live. see how things work out? Solid strategy. Think I'm gonna give that a shot.
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Post by tkasper01 on Mar 27, 2018 6:47:47 GMT -5
I must be an aberration then. My wife and I have been a couple since the spring of '88, married since the fall of '90. I could not imagine life without her. We rarely argue or fight, especially now as empty nester's, we enjoy each others company and look forward to doing things together. We go for walks, play games, chat and do chores as a team. Things are very different now then they were 20 years ago. But we just keep inventing our new normal together. I could not imagine being in a relationship that sounds like any of the ones being talked about in this thread. I'd of left years ago. Life is too fucking short to be unhappy/miserable for any part of it. I have no secrets to success or smart bits of advice for anyone. I just know what we do works for us and we have hit an amazing part of our relationship. Kids are raised, college is over and we are now doing things we want to do. We are relatively healthy, well if I can get rid of this fucking pesky stage 4 cancer anyway. Plenty of money for travel and adventures so life is pretty fucking good. Bash away
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Post by Harrier on Mar 27, 2018 7:02:29 GMT -5
I must be an aberration then. My wife and I have been a couple since the spring of '88, married since the fall of '90. I could not imagine life without her. We rarely argue or fight, especially now as empty nester's, we enjoy each others company and look forward to doing things together. We go for walks, play games, chat and do chores as a team. Things are very different now then they were 20 years ago. But we just keep inventing our new normal together. I could not imagine being in a relationship that sounds like any of the ones being talked about in this thread. I'd of left years ago. Life is too fucking short to be unhappy/miserable for any part of it. I have no secrets to success or smart bits of advice for anyone. I just know what we do works for us and we have hit an amazing part of our relationship. Kids are raised, college is over and we are now doing things we want to do. We are relatively healthy, well if I can get rid of this fucking pesky stage 4 cancer anyway. Plenty of money for travel and adventures so life is pretty fucking good. Bash away Happy for you man. Maybe sometimes you gotta push through to come out of the other side.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2018 8:00:44 GMT -5
I must be an aberration then. My wife and I have been a couple since the spring of '88, married since the fall of '90. I could not imagine life without her. We rarely argue or fight, especially now as empty nester's, we enjoy each others company and look forward to doing things together. We go for walks, play games, chat and do chores as a team. Things are very different now then they were 20 years ago. But we just keep inventing our new normal together. I could not imagine being in a relationship that sounds like any of the ones being talked about in this thread. I'd of left years ago. Life is too fucking short to be unhappy/miserable for any part of it. I have no secrets to success or smart bits of advice for anyone. I just know what we do works for us and we have hit an amazing part of our relationship. Kids are raised, college is over and we are now doing things we want to do. We are relatively healthy, well if I can get rid of this fucking pesky stage 4 cancer anyway. Plenty of money for travel and adventures so life is pretty fucking good. Bash away Like you, I'm in the same boat (located just below the "man in the boat"). Met my wife in 1982 and we've been together since. We had an immediate connection (semi-literally) which continues to this day. I always consider myself lucky to have found my soul mate, who I still enjoy banging.
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