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Post by adpz on Mar 27, 2018 21:25:09 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2018 22:37:26 GMT -5
I must be an aberration then. My wife and I have been a couple since the spring of '88, married since the fall of '90. I could not imagine life without her. We rarely argue or fight, especially now as empty nester's, we enjoy each others company and look forward to doing things together. We go for walks, play games, chat and do chores as a team. Things are very different now then they were 20 years ago. But we just keep inventing our new normal together. I could not imagine being in a relationship that sounds like any of the ones being talked about in this thread. I'd of left years ago. Life is too fucking short to be unhappy/miserable for any part of it. I have no secrets to success or smart bits of advice for anyone. I just know what we do works for us and we have hit an amazing part of our relationship. Kids are raised, college is over and we are now doing things we want to do. We are relatively healthy, well if I can get rid of this fucking pesky stage 4 cancer anyway. Plenty of money for travel and adventures so life is pretty fucking good. Bash away June 1987. Same thing different woman. I hope
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Post by Hotman on Mar 28, 2018 5:18:21 GMT -5
I must be an aberration then. My wife and I have been a couple since the spring of '88, married since the fall of '90. I could not imagine life without her. We rarely argue or fight, especially now as empty nester's, we enjoy each others company and look forward to doing things together. We go for walks, play games, chat and do chores as a team. Things are very different now then they were 20 years ago. But we just keep inventing our new normal together. I could not imagine being in a relationship that sounds like any of the ones being talked about in this thread. I'd of left years ago. Life is too fucking short to be unhappy/miserable for any part of it. I have no secrets to success or smart bits of advice for anyone. I just know what we do works for us and we have hit an amazing part of our relationship. Kids are raised, college is over and we are now doing things we want to do. We are relatively healthy, well if I can get rid of this fucking pesky stage 4 cancer anyway. Plenty of money for travel and adventures so life is pretty fucking good. Bash away June 1987. Same thing different woman. I hope She's THAT good lol
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Post by BEAC0NJET on Mar 28, 2018 10:28:35 GMT -5
Im turning 45, and just passed 10 years of marriage. Im no expert, but it sounds like you're in a rut or a low ebb. We all get there from time to time. As long as you believe the bolded, to me, thats the main sign to stick it out. Wives are annoying at times. But then so are most human beings. lol Ruts in relationships are a myth. There's no relationship equivalent of a batting slump--some temporary dysfunction that comes out of nowhere and just as suddenly one day resolves itself. Marriage problems--serious ones--are more like erosion of skills due to age or injury....they can come on gradually or they can come on fast. But once they start they only head one way. I dont know if I agree... marriages, like any other interpersonal relationship, go through ups and downs, ebbs and flows. No two human beings are realistically going to be in sync 24x7. They take constant attention and work. Sometimes on the downswing you have to work a little harder. Unless you're talking about serious infidelity or trust issues, in which case, yes, they're almost always only head one direction.
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Post by beerfish on Mar 28, 2018 10:49:41 GMT -5
I'm 57, going to retire in about a month and have never been married. The last number of years I've simply become too accustomed to doing whatever I want when I want and though I don't think of myself as being overly selfish I just know that if I was in a permanent relationship I'd start resenting things about the second time I was asked to do something that I did not want to do.
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Post by Jets Things on Mar 28, 2018 10:57:52 GMT -5
Ruts in relationships are a myth. There's no relationship equivalent of a batting slump--some temporary dysfunction that comes out of nowhere and just as suddenly one day resolves itself. Marriage problems--serious ones--are more like erosion of skills due to age or injury....they can come on gradually or they can come on fast. But once they start they only head one way. I dont know if I agree... marriages, like any other interpersonal relationship, go through ups and downs, ebbs and flows. No two human beings are realistically going to be in sync 24x7. They take constant attention and work. Sometimes on the downswing you have to work a little harder. This sums up my 10+ years of marriage. It ain't all sunshine and roses, but the goods have gotten great and the bads have lessened in severity. Having four kids running around and no time to think might be a part of that.
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Post by 32Green on Mar 28, 2018 11:05:17 GMT -5
I dont know if I agree... marriages, like any other interpersonal relationship, go through ups and downs, ebbs and flows. No two human beings are realistically going to be in sync 24x7. They take constant attention and work. Sometimes on the downswing you have to work a little harder. This sums up my 10+ years of marriage. It ain't all sunshine and roses, but the goods have gotten great and the bads have lessened in severity. Having four kids running around and no time to think might be a part of that. 10. lololol oh man
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Post by Jets Things on Mar 28, 2018 11:59:57 GMT -5
This sums up my 10+ years of marriage. It ain't all sunshine and roses, but the goods have gotten great and the bads have lessened in severity. Having four kids running around and no time to think might be a part of that. 10. lololol oh man We fuck a lot
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Post by 32Green on Mar 28, 2018 12:04:29 GMT -5
Your wife seems like a real catch. Is she seeing anyone?
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Post by Jets Things on Mar 28, 2018 12:09:25 GMT -5
Your wife seems like a real catch. Is she seeing anyone? Well played.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2018 12:49:44 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2018 12:51:34 GMT -5
Your wife seems like a real catch. Is she seeing anyone? Quite deft, Commander. Grey Poupon?
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Post by BushytheLobster on Mar 28, 2018 14:32:09 GMT -5
This sums up my 10+ years of marriage. It ain't all sunshine and roses, but the goods have gotten great and the bads have lessened in severity. Having four kids running around and no time to think might be a part of that. 10. lololol oh man 10 is basically still honeymoon stage. You might not be thinking. But she's thinking. Oh man is she thinking. All. The. Time.
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Post by quantum on Mar 28, 2018 14:59:36 GMT -5
Your wife seems like a real catch. Is she seeing anyone? sure made up for that Suh fiasco....
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Post by Jets Things on Mar 28, 2018 15:13:26 GMT -5
10 is basically still honeymoon stage. You might not be thinking. But she's thinking. Oh man is she thinking. All. The. Time. She isn't thinking about much of anything with that small woman brain of hers.
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