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Post by crossfire on Mar 4, 2015 14:15:11 GMT -5
By the way, I am torn on whether you make any comments directly to his sons. It may be too emotional for them in public, and you can always tell them in private anything they need to hear. first, thanks for the kind words everyone. Now is not the time to get into this and I may never here but I did tell the story one of our fake interwebz friends here. Let me just say this for now. As insane, cruel and disgusting as it sounds, he had to battle for time to see his kids over this last year and had encountered situations that would have tested the patience of a saint. |
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Post by Jetworks on Mar 4, 2015 14:25:16 GMT -5
Cross, I'm truly sorry to hear this. What you shared here made me a bit envious and introspective. I'm sure that whatever you choose to speak on will come across with a love and genuineness that all in attendance will recognize.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2015 14:26:33 GMT -5
I would try and keep it about a celebration of life moving at a fairly fast pace with no long pauses and finish with the reality touching back on the prior parts I gave, ah who am I kidding I wouldn't make it out of my seat. Sorry for your loss.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2015 14:33:24 GMT -5
We don't know one another, but I am sorry for your loss. We've all gone through the passing of family and friends. But 50 is way too young.
As for the eulogy: By any chance, do you tap dance. Not professional or anything. Just enough ability to carry off a steady rhythm. If so, let me know. I still have a one man performance piece (mostly tap with some spoken word) of Bergman's "Wild Strawberries". I think it would be perfect for the memorial service.
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Post by 2milehighJet on Mar 4, 2015 14:38:29 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss Cross.
Ive never given a Eulogy, but how you wrote about him in the other thread would be my advice, tell everyone the stories, what he meant to you and what he meant to others. Emotion will be hard to avoid. Once again, sorry.
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Post by frostlich on Mar 4, 2015 14:41:32 GMT -5
Terribly Sorry Cross.
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Post by crossfire on Mar 4, 2015 14:42:20 GMT -5
Cross, I'm truly sorry to hear this. What you shared here made me a bit envious and introspective. I'm sure that whatever you choose to speak on will come across with a love and genuineness that all in attendance will recognize. Thanks. The writing of the eulogy is difficult because you want to say so much and don't want to talk too long. When I gave one four years ago, I spoke for about 10 minutes. For the most part, it was things that made people smile and even laugh. Things about what a great friend he was to many of us but mostly about how much he cared for his family. I shared stories he had told me about both of his kids. Things I am sure they probably never heard. But at one point, I literally realized that I was losing it. Honestly, I thought by practicing it over and over again, I would be fine. But the emotion of a close friend dying just got to me. I felt tears well up in my eyes and my voice cracked. I realized that if I opened my mouth again, no words would have come out. I took a few deep breaths and realized that if anything, I was losing it more. I wasn't crying but damn, I was close. I didn't even think about what I did next. But I did the only thing I could think to do. So in front of a group of mourners, I literally raised my right hand and smashed it down on my left hand as hard as I could. I'm sure it looked somewhat insane but it did the trick. The pain brought me back into focus. Since I am quite sure everyone realized what was happening, I just said "Sorry about that." and I started talking again. |
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Post by crossfire on Mar 4, 2015 14:45:16 GMT -5
We don't know one another, but I am sorry for your loss. We've all gone through the passing of family and friends. But 50 is way too young. As for the eulogy: By any chance, do you tap dance. Not professional or anything. Just enough ability to carry off a steady rhythm. If so, let me know. I still have a one man performance piece (mostly tap with some spoken word) of Bergman's "Wild Strawberries". I think it would be perfect for the memorial service. Well holy fucking shit!!! Are you for real??? In all of this, I have not been on the board very often but it's fucking great to have you back!!! As for the tap, lets just say that if I did it, I might actually be the first person ever heckled during a eulogy!  |
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Post by southside on Mar 4, 2015 15:18:41 GMT -5
Sorry bro.
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Post by jetfrantik on Mar 4, 2015 22:04:43 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about your friend Cross. Hope you can spend some time with the two boys.
You could even stay in touch as they grow up. Probably be rewarding. Good luck,
you'll do good I'm sure.
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Post by greenandwhiteheart on Mar 5, 2015 7:42:51 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about your loss. As for the eulogy, you'll be fine. It's supposed to be emotional.
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Post by quantum on Mar 5, 2015 9:14:45 GMT -5
Condolences cross. No matter how many times you rehearse it, you may break down.
Try to think of it as honoring or celebrating a life instead of saying goodbye - that may get you through it.
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Post by tbp on Mar 5, 2015 15:19:57 GMT -5
As you guys know, my best friend has been battling an incurable form of brain cancer. Unfortunately, he passed away early Monday morning. He and I have been friends since college and were in each other's wedding parties. I've known his parents, brothers and sister for a long time. He just turned 50 in November, fifteen days before I did. He's got two sons, the youngest is five and the oldest will turn nine on Sunday, the day after his father's funeral. Anyway, I was asked tonight if I would be a pallbearer and give the eulogy. Of course, I said yes. It's a huge honor to be asked but eulogies are difficult to give. At least for me. I write well and I am very comfortable with public speaking. But I gave a eulogy about four years ago for another close friend and it's not easy. I rehearsed it over and over but there's a lot of emotion when it involves the death of somebody close to you. Anyone else ever ever give one before? Any advice. At the request of his widow I gave one for a friend/employee that passed away suddenly (heart attack). I focused on him and what his presence meant to me, the company where we both worked and his contributions to the success of those endeavors. Don't make it complicated and keep it light for everyone's sake, including yours. |
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Post by crossfire on Mar 6, 2015 0:12:13 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice. I am currently editing the eulogy now. It's pretty good but it's a bit too long so I am editing it now. I was asked to make it around 5-8 minutes long and I am closer to 8 but I would prefer to be closer to 5.
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Post by carlton on Mar 6, 2015 10:41:25 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss Cro. When I saw this thread title I thought it was going to be a "write a eulogy for a hampur member" jam packed with lolz. Good luck bud.
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