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Post by 32Green on Jan 18, 2021 19:00:45 GMT -5
My guy is soon to be 24. I had pretty good suspicions that him and his pals (who were all good kids/students) were vaping it and doing whatever drinking they could get away with senior year and then into College. While we emphasized safety/responsibility, we never really busted his chops as long as he fulfilled his schooling obligations. We sort of thought that if we were draconian, we would push him the other way. Instead we emphasized trust and responsibility. He made it through college fine, still has great pals and a job. Conversely, he had friends whose parents were very strict and some of these kids flamed out in college because they didnt know how to moderate and were totally inexperienced. Ironically, tough parenting put them at a disadvantage in a weird way. So yeah, we willfully didnt clamp down and took a leap of faith he would get it out of his system. Reality is, at 19 your guy is soon to be out on his own anyway. As long as he isnt blowing school or getting arrested, its totally normal behavior (yes, all the kids are doing it) whether we like it or not. Echoing this... Frankly I'd be surprised if a kid DIDN'T try weed. I was honest. Told her I did it back in the day (didn't mention how much) and also told her as with any chemical in your body, its not healthy and there are consequences. TBH alcohol scared me much more with kids anyway. If you've done your job and the kid is your average teenager, then I don't think you have a worry. I saw weed take down kids who were already on a bad path. Just totally take away any ambition whatsoever. Basically is he using it to party on weekends or his he smoking it do get through the day? To me that's important. One thing I would ask is what are your state laws? Make sure he knows what amounts raise him up to intent to distribute. I know a really bright kid who decided he would buy a large amount. Got caught in his dorm and kicked out of top Ivy League school. One of those dumb smart kids. whoa..united by weed. Sweet baby jeebus. |
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Post by Hotman on Jan 18, 2021 19:25:36 GMT -5
Echoing this... Frankly I'd be surprised if a kid DIDN'T try weed. I was honest. Told her I did it back in the day (didn't mention how much) and also told her as with any chemical in your body, its not healthy and there are consequences. TBH alcohol scared me much more with kids anyway. If you've done your job and the kid is your average teenager, then I don't think you have a worry. I saw weed take down kids who were already on a bad path. Just totally take away any ambition whatsoever. Basically is he using it to party on weekends or his he smoking it do get through the day? To me that's important. One thing I would ask is what are your state laws? Make sure he knows what amounts raise him up to intent to distribute. I know a really bright kid who decided he would buy a large amount. Got caught in his dorm and kicked out of top Ivy League school. One of those dumb smart kids. whoa..united by weed. Sweet baby jeebus. I been TELLING you bro! Its the good lords plant put here to make ppl happy and bring world peace! |
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Post by 32Green on Jan 18, 2021 19:30:29 GMT -5
do NOT go to the cops. that is fucking absurd as a parent. keep your kid as far away from that "system" as humanly possible. this world ain't mayberry anymore, your kid gets a label with them, NOTHING good comes out of it. i have confiscated pot from my older son. i blaze it now and then in my woodshop with the one-hitter i also confiscated from him. he no longer smokes. the circle is complete. They'll probably turn it around and try to charge the entire family with all kinds of bullshit, strip 4A rights, and try to civil asset seize any fun stuff that catches their eye. They are not there to help you. Maybe at one time in an extinct past they were, but those days are long gone. Dude. |
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Post by Hotman on Jan 18, 2021 19:34:09 GMT -5
They'll probably turn it around and try to charge the entire family with all kinds of bullshit, strip 4A rights, and try to civil asset seize any fun stuff that catches their eye. They are not there to help you. Maybe at one time in an extinct past they were, but those days are long gone. Dude. Oh, bro, you know I ain't talkin bout you my man. Just the way things are bein now. Well I guess depending on the state |
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Post by southparkcpa on Jan 18, 2021 20:43:44 GMT -5
tell him if he doesn’t stop he must attend every Jets home game.
That will work...
I was a big pot smoker, haven’t touched it since I was 22. BUT ounces at a time and once bought a Quarter pound.
95 percent of us grow out of it .... as long as he is in college, good grades, job.
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Post by RobR on Jan 18, 2021 20:50:46 GMT -5
Thanks everyone. You’ve all been helpful, and the kick in the ass is that it’s not surprising. Salt of the earth types populate the Hampur. There is a bus load of wisdom here. I don't have advice per se to your question but thought I would chime in. Weed has a different effect on the person and it should be viewed on a case by case basis. I know people that smoke and become lazy and don't function well, or at least to best of their abilities. I also see the opposite end of the spectrum daily. I work in the industry so I see people every single day that fall into both realms of the spectrum and some that fall into the middle. The owner of the company I work for left a 6 figure job to open his own business because he is the definition of an entrepreneur. He started selling a few products out of the trunk of his car and quickly got overwhelmed with demand and then I stepped in and became his first employee and now the VP of his main company. He has grown that business into three separate businesses right now and we currently employ over a dozen people, and they all make great money. This coming from a guy that was working out of the trunk of his Altima less than four years ago. You might ask, why am I bringing this up? It's because he is the hardest working person I have ever been around in my 48 years.....and he also smokes weed from the moment he wakes until he finally gets his four hours of sleep after a 16 hour day....everyday. He never stops working and he can't function without weed, but I on the other hand don't function very well when smoking so I reserve it to a few hits before bedtime. If your kid is making the grades and not falling behind I wouldn't worry, but then again I don't have any children so I understand your worries. |
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Post by porgyman on Jan 18, 2021 20:54:08 GMT -5
I’ve only touched weed once, since middle school. About 5 years ago at a conference in Denver. A very hot girl asked me to join her at the weed store downtown. Bought a few different types...one was pineapple as I recall. Anyway, we smoked it together in her hotel room, then I rode her like Eddie Arcaro on Secretariant. Ahhhhh, the good old days!
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Post by RobR on Jan 18, 2021 20:55:19 GMT -5
I’ve only touched weed once, since middle school. About 5 years ago at a conference in Denver. A very hot girl asked me to join her at the weed store downtown. Bought a few different types...one was pineapple as I recall. Anyway, we smoked it together in her hotel room, then I rode her like Eddie Arcaro on Secretariant. Ahhhhh, the good old days! Pineapple express |
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Post by porgyman on Jan 18, 2021 21:01:07 GMT -5
I’ve only touched weed once, since middle school. About 5 years ago at a conference in Denver. A very hot girl asked me to join her at the weed store downtown. Bought a few different types...one was pineapple as I recall. Anyway, we smoked it together in her hotel room, then I rode her like Eddie Arcaro on Secretariant. Ahhhhh, the good old days! Pineapple express Yeah, that was probably the name. Another was purple something. As you can see, I’m not a weed smoker. Not even cigarettes. Just an occasional cigar. |
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Post by RobR on Jan 18, 2021 21:06:03 GMT -5
Yeah, that was probably the name. Another was purple something. As you can see, I’m not a weed smoker. Not even cigarettes. Just an occasional cigar. There is literally thousands of strains out there and they all have different properties. We just had a local grower make a cross and name it after our company and it packs a wallop....not really for me but everyone else loves it. |
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Post by Ff2 on Jan 18, 2021 21:25:00 GMT -5
They'll probably turn it around and try to charge the entire family with all kinds of bullshit, strip 4A rights, and try to civil asset seize any fun stuff that catches their eye. They are not there to help you. Maybe at one time in an extinct past they were, but those days are long gone. Dude. Then they rape your cat. I’ve seen it happen. |
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Post by frostlich on Jan 18, 2021 23:05:42 GMT -5
Im getting a back to the future vibe. Any chance the wifne was a stoner back in the day? Over reacting now about it?
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Post by Hotman on Jan 19, 2021 1:05:46 GMT -5
Yeah, that was probably the name. Another was purple something. As you can see, I’m not a weed smoker. Not even cigarettes. Just an occasional cigar. Pineapple Trainwreck Purple Urkel Your welcome lol Boy that PT will activate the pineal gland and have you trippin lol |
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Post by Hotman on Jan 19, 2021 1:06:35 GMT -5
Then they rape your cat. I’ve seen it happen. Ok. We don't need to make jokes. Nobody does anything to the cats... SMH Now they WILL shoot ur dog tho. 32Green understands. Its why the statement hurts to him. He was one of the good ones and is disgusted about the SOTU Its a real bummer for sure. Seems to look somewhat hopeless |
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Post by Raoul Duke on Jan 19, 2021 8:45:00 GMT -5
Then they rape your cat. I’ve seen it happen. Ok. We don't need to make jokes. Nobody does anything to the cats... SMH Now they WILL shoot ur dog tho. 32Green understands. Its why the statement hurts to him. He was one of the good ones and is disgusted about the SOTU Its a real bummer for sure. Seems to look somewhat hopeless Are you saying cops steal your weed AND shoot your dog? WTF 32?!!!! |
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