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Post by Lithfan on May 8, 2016 7:02:52 GMT -5
So sorry to read this , Jetstream, but I have no advice to offer as I have been one of the lucky ones and have never had to deal with what you are going through, but you and your family will be in my prayers.
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Post by jetstream23 on May 8, 2016 10:04:55 GMT -5
Thanks folks. All good stuff.
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Post by 2foolish on May 8, 2016 11:03:46 GMT -5
So sorry to hear this... Plz give her a big hug from all of us... Hope she's having a Good Mothers Day...
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Post by Bing© in Buffalo Chairman on May 8, 2016 11:11:31 GMT -5
Thanks folks. All good stuff. Love you man.
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Post by 2milehighJet on May 8, 2016 14:32:43 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about this especially today.
You and your Mom will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by Warfish on May 8, 2016 15:37:36 GMT -5
I'm sorry for you J.S.
Be strong, and hope for the best/prepare for the worst.
Nothing else to be said, really.
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Post by tbp on May 8, 2016 16:05:25 GMT -5
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Post by porgyman on May 8, 2016 17:09:00 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to read this. It brings back lots of memories, as I lost my Mom to the exact same disease 15 years ago. She was 72 when diagnosed, and at the time given a 3 year life expectancy. She underwent radiation treatment, and lived almost 5 years. With the exception of the last week of her life, her time was well spent and without pain. I know that there have been advances made in treatment over the past 15 years. I hope and pray that one of them will be helpful for your Mom.
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Post by Harrier on May 8, 2016 17:30:41 GMT -5
So sorry JS. Thoughts are with you and your family.
Lost my Grandad to COPD/chest tumour last year just after the Texans game. One minute he's sat laughing and jokin around, next thing gone.
Hard to watch.
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Post by Hotman on May 9, 2016 1:10:43 GMT -5
I would strongly suggest getting her high potency cancer killing cannabis oil. You will likely need to go to Colorado... May as well bring her there for a trip if you can. If it doesn't kill the cancer, which it has for some people, there will at the very least be a lot more comfort involved.
I am very serious. The oil would cost around 10 grand I think for the cancer killer. That's what I would suggest if the money is good. A HELL of a lot cheaper than "Doctors" mind you...
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Post by The Turk on May 9, 2016 3:57:24 GMT -5
Very sorry to read this JS.
We've went through a lot of this in both my family and my wife's family. Luckily the only fatal sort was my wife's father but my mother has recovered twice from breast cancer and once from tiroid cancer, I had 6 moles taken that were melanomic (is that even a word) my had melanoma when he died but he was also pushin 90 so one cannot be sure that was the reason and we had a bunch of non-fatal tiroid cancers with my sister, grandma, mom.
The only one with similar age was my grandpa who was a little older than you mother when he was diognosed in his early 80's. I remember the doctor saying with a patient this age they don2T regenerate cells as quickly as a young patient does and as a result Cancer moves much slower in older patients. So that's why it may be in her best interest to just do everything you can do make her life as comfortable as possible until the end but not make her feel like she has to go through a very excrutiating process for the sake of those she'll leave behind.
I know that must seem like a callous thing to say but I sincerely believe that if the quality of life becomes a burden on the person living it we shouldn't force them to fight just for our sake. It sucks but I think we should try to be mindful at the end of the day its their life. I'm just saying this because my father in-law was practically begging to be just left in peace when he was near the end. It was shocking to see a man so broken down and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
At the end of the day its going to be a very personal challenge to face for each one of you. I'm sorry again. Stay strong mostly because she'll need you to.
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Post by 32Green on May 9, 2016 7:38:53 GMT -5
high potency cancer killing cannabis oil.
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Post by DDNYjets on May 9, 2016 7:54:38 GMT -5
high potency cancer killing cannabis oil. Whether or not he is serious I think it provided some much-needed comic relief.
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Post by 32Green on May 9, 2016 7:57:01 GMT -5
Whether or not he is serious I think it provided some much-needed comic relief.
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Post by Ff2 on May 9, 2016 9:35:30 GMT -5
Because Im old as fuck...I've lived through both side of this...the patient and the care giver.
All I can add is, as far as the medical...its pretty much out of yours hands, what is going to happen is what is going to happen. Doctors are obsessed by numbers and work to get the right ones. Most are oblivious to the emotional part...probably not their fault...they just are.
This may be the first time in you life you feel actually helpless. You cant FIX this, no matter what. Which is frustrating as fuck. Also...there is so much waiting, waiting, waiting is almost intolerable. Obviously you advocate on behalf of the patient, but most decisions are fairly clear given the facts.
So what can you do? Simple BE THERE. Talk. Talk about something other than being sick. Be the son/brother/uncle/grandparent you always were. You have no idea how far a little normal small talk goes. A sick person spends so much time in their own mind...taking time to talk about kids/sports/weather, whatever is a godsend. Be who you always have been but just BE THERE.
Also...and this is the hard part...you have to remember to take care of yourself. Physically and mentally. Talk to someone else about whats going through your mind. Don't clam up cuz your a tough guy. Dont drink your self into a stupor. Dont eat yourself into Jabba the Hutt.
This is all part of life. Its not the fun part...but part of it nonetheless. Its an honor to help someone when they are sick, as well as a responsibility. There is no greater love. You may feel torn somedays,.,,am I neglecting my family...my job...or the other way am I neglecting my Mom...you will never feel you are doing it :right" because there is no right. Life is messy. You do your best and the people who matter understand.
You'll do this and you'll be OK. I promise.
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