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Post by Trades on Apr 5, 2015 16:38:11 GMT -5
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Post by Trades on Apr 5, 2015 16:40:27 GMT -5
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Post by The Tax Returns Are in Kenya on Apr 5, 2015 16:50:41 GMT -5
Lawyers are always going to tell you to hire them. The best you can do is talk to her and try to see what she thinks is reasonable on the major issues. If shes not batshit greedy and delusional, then you can proceed amicably without giving everything to your attorneys. Ny is really bad with divorces.......you can wind up in court for years easily racking up 60k each in lawyers fees. Try to talk sense with her.....not every divorce has to be ugly Of course if shes nutty greedy, youll have no choice but to play dick. Right now, the big thing is dads rights so if you can have your kids 50 percent of the time you wont have to pay crazy child support. Alimony is not what it used to be either. Life goes on think of the sweet new pussy and ass youll be burying your tounge into I tried that and thought it worked. We went to a mediator and seemed to create a fair deal. Then she took that to a lawyer who told her he would get her more and we spent months and thousands for her to get one extra year of alimony added to the deal. I have no idea what the cause of their split is but don't fool yourself into thinking that you had enough issues to make you want a divorce but now she will be realistic. Obviously everyone's situation is different but be careful and err on the side of caution. You can lawyer up and still try your best to be fair while also being cautious. Probably the smartest thought in this thread. |
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Post by The Tax Returns Are in Kenya on Apr 5, 2015 16:51:21 GMT -5
Did your ex not appreciate your great sense of humor? |
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Post by PK on Apr 5, 2015 19:42:04 GMT -5
I did my own divorce. Just hired a lawyer to file the paperwork that I drew up for 800 bucks.
Best thing I did was not move out of my house, had the kids going to the school district I lived in and voluntarily paid her alimony 2 years before the divorce was finalized.
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Post by Wee Baby Shamus on Apr 5, 2015 20:03:58 GMT -5
Good for you.
I also had an amicable divorce with minimal cost simply due to the fact that we were both reasonable and realistic. Like i said, not all divorces have to be epic battles. The last thing my ex wanted was for a lawyer getting our cash......simple as that. Yes, every case is different but now there are 2 in this thread who did it without going broke
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Post by moops on Apr 6, 2015 6:11:34 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice so far. I have "lawyered up" although this whole thing makes my gut itch. My wife is VERY competitive and she likes to win...that was one of the recurring issues in the marriage--her need to compete at everything...a Sunday hike with friends, a video game with the kids. Anyway, I guess that doesn't bode well for an amicable settlement. I checked out her lawyers web page. The phrase AGGRESSIVE DIVORCE ATTORNEY is plastered in all caps accross the site.
Anyway, a lot of the questions I keep thinking of are details I can't find much info on.
For example, our taxes are due in two weeks. Normally I do them but I have a lot on my mind. Is there any advantage/disadvantage to asking to an extension until some of this other stuff blows over?
Or, normally this time of year we'd be booking a vacation rental for the family for sometime in July. Even assuming it's just me and the kids, does it make sense to go ahead with plans like that or should I put all future planning on hold until the divorce is ironed out?
Also I assume she will want the house. Not becauseshe likes it especialy, but because getting it will feel to her like winning. In all our years together she's never shown any interest in taking care of the house so i'm skeptical that she has any sense of all the works it involves, let alone be willing to do it. But that aside, if she really wants it, is there any advantage/disadvantage to letting her keep the house versus insisting that we sell? From the kids perspective, I think they'd be better off in a condo that she has a change at maintaining in reasonable shape than a house that's falling down around their ears.
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Post by Hotman on Apr 6, 2015 6:16:42 GMT -5
Ugh.. i am never getting married and I'm so fuckin glad I was wise enough to call the shit off. Just breaking up with the bitch unassisted was the biggest pain in the ass... Can't imagine if she actually had rights to half my shit.
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Post by Fishooked on Apr 6, 2015 6:39:11 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice so far. I have "lawyered up" although this whole thing makes my gut itch. My wife is VERY competitive and she likes to win...that was one of the recurring issues in the marriage--her need to compete at everything...a Sunday hike with friends, a video game with the kids. Anyway, I guess that doesn't bode well for an amicable settlement. I checked out her lawyers web page. The phrase AGGRESSIVE DIVORCE ATTORNEY is plastered in all caps accross the site. Anyway, a lot of the questions I keep thinking of are details I can't find much info on. For example, our taxes are due in two weeks. Normally I do them but I have a lot on my mind. Is there any advantage/disadvantage to asking to an extension until some of this other stuff blows over? Or, normally this time of year we'd be booking a vacation rental for the family for sometime in July. Even assuming it's just me and the kids, does it make sense to go ahead with plans like that or should I put all future planning on hold until the divorce is ironed out? Also I assume she will want the house. Not becauseshe likes it especialy, but because getting it will feel to her like winning. In all our years together she's never shown any interest in taking care of the house so i'm skeptical that she has any sense of all the works it involves, let alone be willing to do it. But that aside, if she really wants it, is there any advantage/disadvantage to letting her keep the house versus insisting that we sell? From the kids perspective, I think they'd be better off in a condo that she has a change at maintaining in reasonable shape than a house that's falling down around their ears. This must be her. i.imgur.com/KnaUFmT.gif |
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Post by Hotman on Apr 6, 2015 6:43:24 GMT -5
LMAO
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Post by Fishooked on Apr 6, 2015 6:46:03 GMT -5
A Cunty McTwatterson if there ever was one. |
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Post by Hotman on Apr 6, 2015 6:52:34 GMT -5
A Cunty McTwatterson if there ever was one. Got that right! I bit my tongue as to not offend miss vinny here... |
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Post by Trades on Apr 6, 2015 7:03:17 GMT -5
Did your ex not appreciate your great sense of humor? To a point she did but she just liked sleeping with other men more. |
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Post by quantum on Apr 6, 2015 9:42:51 GMT -5
Went through it about 5 years ago. Kids were 10 and 7. Best advice I can give is get a good lawyer, don't be nice and ALWAYS be there for your kids. It sucks but it gets better. If you only listen to one person listen to Trades - get a good lawyer and take their advice. Times like this people do not think straight.
Buddy of mine just got through with his divorce - got ass raped cuz he didn't listen to his lawyer.
can you elaborate on that? |
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Post by Trades on Apr 6, 2015 10:04:08 GMT -5
If you only listen to one person listen to Trades - get a good lawyer and take their advice. Times like this people do not think straight.
Buddy of mine just got through with his divorce - got ass raped cuz he didn't listen to his lawyer.
can you elaborate on that? He wasn't thinking "straight" so he got ass raped. Simple logic. |
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